Finding Happiness.
There always seems to be something wrong, even when things are going right. Our brain tends to seek out more stimulation, to find that high…
During those times when I don’t feel my best, I try to think of the time when all I could wish for was be in the moment I am in now. The last few weeks have been a struggle with the lows, but I have been able to keep my spirits high last week and this week by reflecting. Although it is tough to be in my current situation, I currently don’t struggle with lack of belonging. I know that I am an outsider, but it is not something that sets me back like it did previously.
In the end, what does it really mean to find happiness? It is not a constant state that we can always have, for sure, but it is nicer to be on the side of happy on average rather than sad. Though I try to avoid comparisons, in some cases it comes in handy for when I am feeling down to see that others may wish for the life I have… heck, I have wished for this life for myself for years. I am safe in a shelter with the person I love with no worries of starving or losing our home. In these cases, it helps me with gratitude.
One way to stay motivated is through setting short and long term goals, and with every goal reached comes satisfaction. These little bursts of happiness, just to keep me going until I reach the next one.
It is definitely much harder now without the structure of school, deadlines of exams. Before, someone had a set of expectations for me and now as an adult it needs to come from me. I’m sure it will be easier later on, but for now I will learn as I navigate life as a responsible (as much as possible) adult.